Pain Relief

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Every now and then, my back gives me trouble. (It’s one of the blessings of age.) Strange, but I can bend or twist casually, nothing strenuous, and feel my back twitch. Then, it’s, “Uh oh…” and I feel muscles tightening painfully. Two things need to happen right away. First, I need to take a Motrin and get off my feet. And second, I call my chiropractor for an adjustment—the sooner, the better. I’ve learned the hard way that what I ignore, I complicate. I’ve actually ended up in the ER with uncontrollable, excruciating muscle spasms by pretending that I’m fine when I know I’m not. And getting back on my feet then is harder and takes longer than it should.

That happened to me (again) last week (fortunately, without the ER part). This time I addressed it pronto, got to my chiropractor and, three adjustments later, I’m pain free and back in the swing of things. The process was quick and pretty easy—no doubt because I got right on it. And my doctor and I have decided to do a monthly, preemptive adjustment to make all this less likely in the future. No doubt, prevention is always better than treatment.

Couples in Pain

Without a doubt, the same thing is true for couples.

Couples often have trouble dealing with their pain. And the real problem usually isn’t so much the injury; it’s how they deal (or don’t deal) with it.

Some couples have occasional pain. For others, it’s chronic. And, for most, it didn’t happen in one egregious transgression, some overt, severe injury. More often, it comes on gradually from small, incidental, even unintended moves over time…a bump here, a scrape there, an offhand comment, a casual criticism. We feel a pinch, something hurts and too often, we just push through it, telling ourselves it’s no big deal, it doesn’t matter.

But, it does matter. And over time, with more bumps and bruises, the pain gets worse until we can hardly move. The relationship freezes up; we become guarded, angry, defensive, discouraged. We’re in terrible shape. We’re not sure how we got there; we just know it hurts!

What should we do?

Don’t Wait

First, don’t ignore that pain! What you ignore, you complicate. Even when it’s seems small, pay attention to that pinch, that poke. Don’t tell yourself it’s no big deal or it didn’t hurt. Yes, it did. Now, mind you, this isn’t about brooding or battling over every minor offense. Making mountains out of molehills is no solution and likely makes things worse, not better.

Instead, go GET HELP. It’s no shame if you don’t know what to do when you’re in pain. The shame is in not knowing and doing nothing. Help is out there. This pain can be adjusted.

Chiropractic Couples Care

That’s what a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat can do. Hold Me Tight®️ is like “chiropractic couples care.” Hold Me Tight®️ can bring a world of relief and prevention to a relationship in pain. And that relief can come in the span of just two days.

Wouldn’t you love to understand how and why you and your partner “pinch and poke” one another…what that’s all about? Just making sense of those seemingly endless, unresolved arguments is the first step to changing them—and you can! You can transform painful confrontations into healthy conversations that comfort and soothe you both. Hold Me Tight®️ can help you get there—even if you’ve hurt for so long that you can’t imagine a “pain-less” partnership. Miracles do happen.

Hold Me Tight®️ is a low key, group experience with other couples as well as private time with your partner too. No one is put on the spot. You and your partner go at your own pace and experienced presenters are there to catch you if you stumble or get stuck. Hold Me Tight®️ is a safe place.

Get Real Relief

Partnership pain happens. We can’t avoid it. But, we should never ignore it. Physically, emotionally, it’s true: what you ignore, you complicate. Help is close by…good help, lasting help. And sooner is much better than later. Hold Me Tight®️ can bring real relief. Orlando FL is the place to find it. Our next retreat is just a few weeks away…February 9 & 10, 2024. Sign up today at www.couplesworkshopsofflorida.com.

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What is the first step to changing our station in life, changing a situation or a relationship? I suggest it starts with changing how we view things, how we look at the problem or the person. Do we see burden or a blessing…obligation or opportunity? Often, when we’re stuck, say, in a difficult relationship, we see our partner as an opponent. He or she is the problem. We may even go find a therapist whom we hope will “fix” our partner. We focus on the other’s weakness, faults and failures, how they let us down and miss the mark. If that is your focus, then the more you look, the more you will see. Most couples who come to me for therapy are so focused on their partner’s problems that they can’t see anything else. They are often stuck in blame and negativity. And what we see informs what we believe. If we see only the bad in our partner, it’s easy to believe that he or she doesn’t love us or that the relationship is hopeless. That’s when couples don’t call me; they call lawyers.

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A local factory required all of its employees to attend a safety class. One fellow didn’t really pay attention and when the final exam at the end of the class asked, “In case of a fire, what steps would you take?” the fellow answered, “Large ones!” “Safety First” is a wise strategy, everywhere from the workplace to the highway to healthcare to childcare. Injuries and accidents cost multiplied billions every year and it’s always better to prevent an accident than to treat one. Whatever the setting, people do better when they feel safe.

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By Mark Beck • December 16, 2024

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