What is the Difference?

A Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat can be great for your relationship. But, some people confuse a couples retreat with couples therapy. That’s understandable, but the two are definitely different. Some couples do both, but each is its own experience. Here are a few differences.
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A Couples Retreat is a Group Experience

Whereas couples therapy usually involves just the couple and their therapist, a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat in Florida consists of any number of couples learning and interacting together. While it’s a low key, laid back experience and no one is put on the spot or forced to share, it’s comforting and encouraging for couples to learn how much they share in common with others—their emotions, their actions, their reactions, their struggles, their needs and longings. Our desire to connect, to be seen, heard, valued, trusted, embraced, cared for by our key other, our “attachment figure,” is something all humans share. Realizing how similar we are, how much we have in common, how much we can give and receive from one another in a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat makes the two days together profoundly enriching and edifying. That dynamic just doesn’t happen the same way in couples therapy.

Couples Retreats are Less “Problem Focused”

Most couples come to therapy with a specific problem or crisis to address. There is often an air of “emergency” in couples therapy. Therapy, by definition is about fixing something. Couples retreats have a different focus. While some couples indeed come to a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat facing difficulty or feeling distress, the weekend is really geared to those couples aiming to enhance and improve their relationship, rather than repair specific problems. Thus, couples who attend a retreat need not be “in crisis” or struggling.

A Couples Retreat in Florida is About Prevention and Wellness

Think of the difference between a vitamin and a medicine or between a tune up and a rebuild on your car engine. In either case, one is about prevention and wellness; the other is about fixing a specific problem. Thus, many couples come to a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat not so much to fix problems as to make their strong relationship even stronger. In those two short days, they come to understand their partner and their connection more deeply. They build on their strengths, as opposed merely to fixing what might be broken. Think of Hold Me Tight®️ as a great fitness program for your relationship. Go to the gym now and you might not need the doctor later. 

Neither Takes the Place of the Other

A Hold Me Tight®️ retreat is not therapy and therapy is not a retreat. It’s both/and, not either/or. Each has their place and either can complement the other. For example, couples already in therapy who attend a Hold Me Tight®️ retreat often leave saying the retreat enhanced and boosted their therapy. They find that the information and insights they gained in the retreat really kicked their therapy into another gear. And some couples whose first step was a Hold Me Tight®️ retreat learn in that weekend together that they have more work to do and Emotionally Focused Therapy (which is the foundation of the Hold Me Tight®️ model) is how they want to proceed. Those couples leave knowing where they want to go and how to get there. Believe me, that alone is worth the price of admission. 

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A Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat is powerful and transformational, be it a stand alone experience or an adjunct to couples therapy. Couples the world over have discovered the power of Hold Me Tight®️. Wherever you are in your journey as a couple, make a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat the next milestone in your relationship.



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