Give Your Couples Therapy a Shot in the Arm with a Hold Me Tight® Workshop by Couples Workshops of Florida

We are often asked, “how does a Hold Me Tight Workshop benefit me if I am already working with an EFT therapist in couples counseling or am about to begin the process of couples counseling?”. The best way to answer this is to look at couples therapy and a Hold Me Tight Workshop as a both/and proposition, not either/or. In other words, each makes the other better. They have a symbiotic relationship.

A couple sitting in a car looking at each other on their way to a Hold Me Tight® workshop a couples retreat in Orlando, FL. Offered for residents of Florida, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, and beyond.

Our Couples Retreat is a Transformational Experience

As a couples therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy and has the pleasure of both, working with couples in my private practice, as well as being a facilitator at the workshops, I can tell you that the experience of being with other couples in a room for 2 days saturated in what is considered to be the most powerful modality in couples therapy, is nothing short of transformational.


Connecting with Other Couples


First and foremost, being with other couples helps us not feel so alone as we quickly recognize that all couples have some dysfunctional ways of communicating; ways that do not serve them. I like to see this coming together as a way of cutting through the shame that binds us and keeps us hidden, a reality that is all too common among couples who are struggling.


A Front Loaded Approach


Secondly, we front load the workshop by presenting the science of why and how couples get stuck in their cycle, which almost immediately helps attendees experience a paradigm shift as they begin to loosen the grip on the long held belief that their partner is the enemy. Instead, they recognize the cycle as the enemy and they are caught by forces that seem beyond their control.


A Roadmap of Hope


It is worth pointing out that while working with couples in session, we are moving them through a deeply experiential process, and our hour together leaves no time to present things like the science of love, show videos to deepen understanding, and introduce diagrams with concepts such as “mapping your cycle”: all of which help widen the lens through which they see themselves and their partners. Essentially, the workshop offers the template of the EFT model, and a roadmap of hope, as it lays the foundation for the couple to enhance the work they are doing with their therapist. 

A couple sitting on a grassy area surrounded by flickering lights representing a couple who has strengthened their couples therapy through a Hold Me Tight® couples retreat in Orlando, FL, Georgia, South Carolina, and beyond.

Gain a Better Understanding of Emotionally Focused Therapy

The workshop helps attendees deepen their understanding of the Eft Cycle (dance) as they move through the exercises in the workbook; a workbook that is filled with slides from the PowerPoint presentation. Attendees gain confidence in their ability to conceptualize their cycle from a birds eye view as they zoom out and map out their moves in the dance together, as a team.  This experience at the workshop actually helps couples identify areas in which they are stuck so that they can take it back to their therapist and go deeper in the work together. I like to see this as grist for the mill, as couples deepen their understanding of their and their partners raw spots. 

Hold Me Tight® Workshops Strengthen and Improve the Results of Tradtional Couples Therapy

Throughout the Hold Me Tight Workshops we remind attendees that the workshop is not therapy! Therapy in the EFT model with a trained EFT Therapist is experiential in nature and requires taking the client into the deepest most tender parts of their hearts; a journey which changes them systemically. Certainly this level of psychotherapy cannot be accomplished in a 2 day workshop. But every EFT Therapist who has sent their clients to us knows that they will benefit from the experience, and that it will only make the clients therapy more fruitful, effective, and efficient. Time and again the feedback we receive from colleagues who have sent their clients to the workshop is that it has benefited the clients journey in therapy. It is, well, just the shot in the arm they need to get a much needed boost.  
A couple holding hands after participating in a Hold Me Tight® workshop. A couples retreat in Orlando, FL can help you reconnect and strengthen your marriage therapy. Offered in Florida, Georgia, South Carolina, and beyond.

Bolster Your Couples Therapy Today with a Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat in Florida


Are you a couple that is attending therapy but still feel that something is missing? Do you there is more you could be doing to improve your relationship on a fundamental level? Are you ready to take the next step? If any of these sound like where you are at in your life, you are not alone. Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshops, offered by Vicki and Mark, offer a safe place to reconnect and learn how to grow in your relationship as the perfect accompaniment to your couples therapy. This workshop will leave you equipped to continue enriching your relationship long after the weekend is over. Follow the steps below to get started on your empowering journey.


  • Get to know more about Vicki and Mark here.
  • Fill out our convenient online contact form.
  • Prepare for a powerful life changing experience!


An older couple drink coffee together and reflect on what they learned from a Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat in Orlando, FL. Couples Retreats are offered to couples in Florida and throughout the United States.

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